Having it All

In my previous post, I talked about what I wanted to do when I grow up. However, do we really get to pick and choose? The expectations that are placed upon us ranging from our parent's, friends, teachers, extended family members to society in general...they all know what is best for us. Society and everybody wants us to be career minded women while raising the perfect family. We are expected to finish school with the perfect degree and come out making a fortune while at the same time finding that perfect mate to settle down with and have kids.

As we all know from this blog, that was not the path I had taken. I took the less conventional route in starting my own family. However, that was my choice. There are plenty of other women who are still going about it the traditional way and I think it's good. But with so many expectations placed upon a woman's shoulder, it's no wonder that she may face a few obstacles while trying to achieve her goals. Women today have more options than ever before on what they can do with their lives. We have television shows and the media tempting us into the glamorous lifestyle just waiting for us somewhere out there. Family is put on hold so that you can globe trot and explore what life can truly offer you. At the same time, you have family members telling you to stop living in dream land, hurry up and find that husband so you can start your family while you are young. While you see and hear about all of these things, does anyone truly tell you how to achieve these things? You're left wondering, "What is it that you really want out of life?" And why are these expectations so emphasized while you are still in your 20's??

People are living longer than ever before. We are able to do more things within our lifetime than our ancestors. So the why the rush? Women can have babies in their late 30's - 40's. I say instead of listening to what everyone says you should do with your life, you should listen to your own heart and really chase after what will make you happy. You will never know what that could be until you actually go for it. Sitting around and just daydreaming about it will only fuel our curiosity some more. The world truly is at our finger tips. I am having a baby at a relatively young age still..but that doesn't mean, my goals have stopped there. I believe women can have it all....but I believe it also comes in time. We don't get it all at once, if we did, what would we do then with our lives? Some of us are just late bloomers. :) And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Life is meant to be explored, enjoyed, and to learn from. We have all heard that. I think we just need to remember that when we see someone else having all these things that we don't. Whether you have it all or not right now, it's about ..are you happy or not? While there are all these expectations on women, it all tends to crumble down if we are not happy in the end.